Do you wish your marriage felt better to you? Do you have
some minor relationship problems you would like to fix? Or maybe you have some
problems that feel huge and you are tired of them. Either way, you want less pain
and more pleasure in your marriage.
Conflict, even in the best marriages, is inevitable. For some couples it creates underlying unease in a relationship. For others, it
causes major problems. How we deal with conflict leads to either a painful or
pleasurable conclusion. Our natural desire is to find a pleasurable solution,
but most couples don't know how to recover when they experience relationship
problems. Usually they keep doing over and over what they know to do and it
doesn't work. They can't figure out what to do differently. Most of the time
people don't know how to successfully communicate and productively solve
problems together. This is one reason why 75% of all new marriages end up
either in separation or divorce, or unhappily staying wed.
Our education for learning how to communicate and handle
relationship problems usually comes from watching our parents. We copy what
they do. If our parents did not show us healthy skills for communicating and
resolving conflict, we need to look somewhere else to learn these skills for
success in our marriages.
Our education for learning how to communicate and handle
relationship problems usually comes from watching our parents. We copy what
they do. If our parents did not show us healthy skills for communicating and
resolving conflict, we need to look somewhere else to learn these skills for
success in our marriages.
When you don't know how to communicate and solve problems as a couple and you have children, they are unable to learn these skills from you.
In turn, they grow up not knowing how to have healthy relationships. The result
is an inter generational problem: kids grow up having the same relationship
struggles their parents have.
By learning and doing what works, couples can break the pattern of unhealthy communication and create inter generational health: happy,
healthy parents raise happy, healthy families. Your children, in turn, have the
capacity to pass relationship health on to the next generation. Now there's a
legacy worth leaving behind!
So where can you go to learn these skills? Both marriage problem specialist and Love problem specialist for couples have demonstrated
effectiveness. Successful approaches include:
- Learning proven skills for communication and confiding effectively,
- Resolving misunderstanding and conflict productively,
- Healing old relationship wounds permanently,
- Increasing intimacy successfully.
Many people are familiar with marriage or relationship counseling where you meet regularly over a period of time with a Specialist.
Successful treatment focuses on your relationship rather than on individual
issues. With your counselor you identify and dissolve the barriers to resolving
your conflicts.
Benefits of relationship counseling include the privacy of the counseling session, a focus on your specific relationship needs, and
flexibility in scheduling appointments.
How do you decide what services are right for you and your spouse? Start by seeking out a Specialist who specializes in relationship
problems. It is helpful if specialist as Acharya Ji K.L. Tantrik offers both counseling and psycho education services, or will refer you to workshops if that is what you need. Together, with a counselor, you can choose which service or combination of services is right for you.
Are you ready to make some changes today towards a healthy,successful relationship? Here are four tips you can start using now:
Tell your partner every day at least one thing you
appreciate about who they are or something they have done.
- Make every effort to see the concerns of your partner through their eyes.
- Avoid dismissing their feelings and experience when you do not understand or agree.
- Never criticize or put down your partner in public.
- Nurture healthy interests outside your relationship.
